If you are going through a divorce, you probably already know that it can be challenging. There are different challenges depending on if you are a man or a woman, which is why it is important that you learn about the things you should expect, and the things you should be ready to fight or, depending on your gender. Here are some things that men particularly struggle with during divorce.
You should be ready to fight for the custody of your children. It is not unusual for the courts to be more favorable to the mother during a divorce. In most cases, the woman is given priority and gets physical custody of the children. This means that although the two of you share legal custody of the children, meaning you both have equal say in the legal decisions for your child, one person usually gets physical custody of the child. This will mean that the mother will get the child for the majority of the time, like during the week, and then the dad gets the children every other weekend and then for a couple months during the summer.
Some ways you can get around this is by living close enough that your children can go back and forth more often. If you can live somewhere that your children can still easily get to their school from their house, have a job that will allow you to run them to their extracurricular activities, and help them maintain their normal life, then you can share physical custody. You might have the children one week and your spouse will have them the other week.
Second, you should be ready to pay alimony if you were the primary breadwinner. The estate is usually spread pretty evenly between the two spouses, even if one spouse was primarily the stay-at-home parent and the other was the breadwinner. If you make more money than your spouse, you should expect to pay alimony to them.
The way to get out of this is usually determined by your ex-spouse. If they can get a job that pays more, then you might not have to pay anymore. Another way is for them to get remarried. As soon as they are remarried to someone else, then you no longer have to pay alimony. But for the first couple years, especially while they are getting on their feet, then you should expect to pay alimony.
Talk with a lawyer from a firm like Maruca Law if you have questions about your divorce proceedings.